my relationships

I am madly in love with two wonderful men: my husband Mark, and my Daddy. Since they are the most important men in my life, and because my readers often ask about my relationships, I thought they could use a place of their own.


I’m married, but my husband is not really into D/s, although he’s been aware of my kink since we first began dating. We’ve had an open relationship for the majority of our 10-year partnership. Because of this flexibility, I’ve been able explore my submissive side. At first it was primarily with casual partners. Lately, I’ve realized that I need to keep my submission for partners I can build a level of intimacy and trust with.

I wrote about Mark occasionally on Little Girl’s Submission. Out of respect for his privacy, I have decided to stop writing about our sex life here. (I also password-protected the posts in my archives that contain private information about him.) He knows that I blog, but doesn’t know where. He is a very private person, and I know that he would feel violated if he found a bunch of personal details out there on the interwebs for all to read. He is a huge part of my every day life, so I doubt I’ll stop mentioning him. I just want to protect him as much as possible when I do.


The day after Thanksgiving, 2009, I received an email complimenting my tumblr page. I was immediately struck by its brevity, and the straightforward, masculine tone. But, I had no idea that replying to that email was the start of my relationship with my Daddy, or how significantly this man would change my life.

Daddy took over my days in January, 2010. He monitored, mentored, and motivated me while I was studying for a professional exam. (I originally documented this process on a private blog, but I’ve imported the posts here, and placed them under password protection.) I fell in love with him during this process, and he with me. He is so wonderful, and has brought me so much joy, peace and understanding. Despite the extreme stress of studying, I feel an incredible fondness for the first two months of 2010 because those were the months that I became his.

I love being my Daddy’s girl. It’s been a long time coming, and I have never been happier, or more sexually and emotionally fulfilled. He is a huge part of my every day, even though we don’t live in the same place. After I took my test, we began discussing a new project to work on. You can see the early details on my transformation page.

(Updated Spring 2011) A year later, I’ve lost 50 lbs. I’m a size 8, where I used to be a 14. I still have about 25 lbs I’d like to lose, but I’m very pleased with my progress. Obviously, so is Daddy. I’ve had a number of my readers express concern or distaste for this aspect of our relationship. Of course, there is no requirement that you enjoy everything I do in order to read here. But I do want to share this little-known fact: in the year since I started this project, my Daddy and I have switched roles back and forth a number of times (meaning, I top him not that I’m the Daddy–that would be funny!). He has also lost about 40 lbs due mostly to my monitoring and pushing him. I’m sure he never would have started without me throwing down a challenge: lose 5 lbs this month, or I get to be the top until you do.

It’s helped some readers to view this as a D/s thing, not a Male/female thing. I get to pick at, objectify and use his body just as much as he gets to do the same to mine. It’s only a matter of who is topping who at the time.


  1. Kelsi pointed me in your direction after I wrote a post on D/s. I had said that to ever explore D/s it would definitely have to be in a relationship with someone I trusted, otherwise I would get hurt.

    She said that reminded her of you and that I might enjoy checking out your blog to see how you have managed to incorporate it into your life. I certainly have enjoyed reading how it works for you so thanks for sharing, it’s given me a deeper understanding!


    • Hi Keely,

      Thanks for coming by, and commenting. I’m glad you are enjoying what you find here, and welcome you to my little spot.

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